Friday, July 31, 2009

yet another wedding etiquette question

As I have mentioned before, JMK's shower is next Sunday. I am unable to go to the wedding because it's on a day when I will be in England. I am hosting the shower and paying for everything entirely by myself. As you can imagine, this is not exactly cheap. My question is, am I obligated to get her a gift, or does the shower count as my gift for her?

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  1. Amanda MJuly 31, 2009 at 10:53 AM

    Her shower would count as her gift in my opinion. My Maid of Honor threw my shower and that was MORE than I could ever ask for!!

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  2. Preppy Pink CrocodileJuly 31, 2009 at 11:40 AM

    You should probably get her something. It can be small or even something sentimental. Do you have an inside joke about baking? You could make her a "bouquet" of wooden spoons from the dollar store. Or you know...something along the same personal to you two line.

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  3. Getting Lost In LondonJuly 31, 2009 at 11:54 AM

    I think everyone like Miss. Manners would tell you that the shower is gift enough, but I think the little blue book would say get her a gift also. But get her something really tiny but necessary. Like a handkerchief w/ her initial in blue. :)

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  4. NessaJuly 31, 2009 at 11:55 AM

    Small and sentimental is the best way to go...or a sweet card telling her you hope she enjoys all of this from you to her! ;)

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  5. Jaime - ECC (East Coast Chick)July 31, 2009 at 1:17 PM

    WOW! That was really nice of you to cover the whole shower! I def think this is your gift to her! :) I'm getting married in November and I would be more than greatful for that!

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  6. Headbands and Hand BagsJuly 31, 2009 at 3:26 PM

    I would agree, something little! Maybe a little something to go with the theme of your shower.

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  7. UnknownJuly 31, 2009 at 8:51 PM

    I think the shower should be a gracious enough gift as it is. If you still feel uneasy about not getting anything else, they have nice wedding stuff at Things Remembered - personalized engraved frames, keepsake boxes, clocks, etc... for really good prices (under $50, most around $25)

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  8. HopsyAugust 1, 2009 at 4:26 PM

    If it were me I would still get her a gift even if it is something small.

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  9. SouthernBelleJMAugust 3, 2009 at 9:04 AM

    A married couple we are friends with hosts all the co-ed wedding showers for our friends. They pay for all the booze and food. It's always their gift to the bride and groom. If it was me, I think the shower is a great gift, but I would still get a small something for the bride. Maybe, a monogrammed key fob with her "new" initial. Just something a little personal. Hope that helps!!!

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  10. Summer AthenaAugust 3, 2009 at 12:41 PM

    hey love. missing you. still need to get your headband in the mail. how bad am i? :(

    i kinda think covering the whole shower is gift enough. but something small is nice too.

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  11. UnknownAugust 4, 2009 at 8:16 AM

    It really depends on your group of friends. Sometimes, the shower is just enough, but in other circles a small gift would also be required.

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  12. the Preppy PrincessAugust 4, 2009 at 4:12 PM

    This is a tough one Miss MRM, but we are in the "find a small gift" for her camp. We really like the idea of something that is very inexpensive but still carries meaning.

    I know it is going to be a wonderful party!
    tp

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